It is easy to imagine that arriving at counselling means arriving with a clear story. A beginning, an explanation and a goal. You can begin with much less than that.
“I’ve been finding things difficult.” “I’m not sure what I need.” “I don’t know where to start.” Any of those can open a conversation.
Noticing what you need
You might be nervous about talking, unsure where to begin or concerned about becoming upset. Those feelings can be part of the conversation. You can decide what to share and leave other things for later.
If a note would help, finish this sentence: “One thing I would like you to understand is…”
You can ask practical questions
Some people prefer to write a few things down. Others would rather begin without preparing. You can choose what feels most comfortable and ask for clarification if something is unclear.
The first step is a conversation between two people. There is room for pauses, questions and not knowing yet.